Ok, one final post for this year [believe me, I won't make any more today; 3's my absolute limit].
So what's 2008 going to be all about? I know the election stuff is going to continue to bombard the news; so will the war, spending, and the usual same old day to day stuff that seems to always be with us.
But what GOOD stuff do we want to have happen? And not with 'just' the intermational and national goings-on [IS there good stuff there?] but what about closer to our homes and our hearts? Does anyone want to make some positive predictions for us?
What about these resolution things that so many people make this time of year, promising to follow them through? [yeah, right.] I do know that people mean well and they really do want to accomplish so many different goals and I don't blame them for trying.
Are people coming up with these resolutions just because its that time of year and they think they're required to? Do they keep the same one[s] on their list every single year? I wonder how generalized or specific these resolutions are; are they setting them up in such a way that they're able to see their progress in mearurable ways? Are they trying to do something that isn't easy to start in the cold [and snow] of winter [like being able to do a triathlon within 2 months]? Do they have a buddy to work on this with them, someone that won't be too hard on them?
Me, I've given up making up yearly resolutions. First of all, I have a thing with keeping all of my commitments, commitments to others as well as for myself. So what makes me think that I'll follow through on a NY's resolution?
Yes, I do make goals for myself from time to time. Sometimes I make progress on them, sometimes not so much, a few of them I keep trying and trying, wondering if I'll ever succeed or what would happen if I didn't, would I be ok with that?
While some people like to use the end of a year to look over their past to make plans and resolutions for the future, I generally start thinking about these things around other personal mile-markers. Like my birthday is one. Sometimes harder ones, too, like the anniversary of my divorce. Or this period of time that I'm out on disibility and not being able to work in the fields that I was trained to do. With some help this past summer and fall, I did get some insights from a professional, in what it might be like if I didn't ever work again. So, as a lot of us can see, we all deal with change as it comes [wanted or not]. We have to learn how to work through it and then resolve to work on a plan for our next step, the next project, the next phase of life.
So no, I don't make resolutions for the start of a new calendar year; at least in my life, it's too unpredictable to even consider this approach. However, it might be fun to at least make some predictions for 2008.
Anyone want to take a stab at it? Feel free to comment!
Monday, December 31, 2007
It wasn't ALL Bah Humbug
So what DID I enjoy about Christmas? Right now I can think of 3 things.
1.) Seeing my pretty 7 year old niece all dressed up in her Christmas dress and sitting on Santa's lap, telling him just one thing that she wanted him to bring her [and if he brought anything more, she wanted it to be a surprise]. And yes, Aunt Denise did take pictures.
2.) Being with/Watching my Mom at our family gathering. She is pretty far gone with her dementia and related health issues, is wheel-chair bound, needs to be fed, she sleeps lots and lots, etc. And in spite of her having a few rough days before Friday's event, she was a trooper that afternoon. She was awake and very alert for the entire time [which surprised us], she smiled like she recognized at least some of the group, she occasionally even laughed [more like a chuckle], and she did try and do some chatting, too, when the various individuals would come over and sit with her [though much of what she says we can't understand]. But it did appear that she had a wonderful time and that was great. Especially after a couple weeks ago after a rough stretch, my dad had said that he wasn't sure if she would even last the night]. So even if she DOES go soon, we're glad she had this Christmas with us.
3.) Ok, I hope you're not too tired yet of hearing about my artist trading cards. If you are, then bear with me for just a couple minutes. As I mentioned in an earlier posting, I was able to get some folks from my ATC [yahoo] groups to swap some holiday cards with me. And it's been awesome getting these cards back in the mail. There's so much divirsity out there, people of all ages and around the world creating these miniature 'canvas's' to create something of themselves. I bet I've gotten close to 30 holiday ATCs through this swap [and thus, I sent that many out]. I also had some extras, so I randomly picked some names/addresses from one of the group's RAK list [Random Acts of Kindness--where we sign up if we're willing to send and/or recieve these RAKs. It's different from a regular swap in that the recipient is not required to send one back, though many of them do.] So I sent a few out to other countries as well as to maybe 6-8 people here in the US. As time goes on, I plan on sending out more RAKs. I received a couple a few months ago and it's always such a nice surprise [and one of them sent me 7 cards; how cool was that??]
Ok, so if any of you want to post something in the comments here about one of your favorite holiday events, please do so!
1.) Seeing my pretty 7 year old niece all dressed up in her Christmas dress and sitting on Santa's lap, telling him just one thing that she wanted him to bring her [and if he brought anything more, she wanted it to be a surprise]. And yes, Aunt Denise did take pictures.
2.) Being with/Watching my Mom at our family gathering. She is pretty far gone with her dementia and related health issues, is wheel-chair bound, needs to be fed, she sleeps lots and lots, etc. And in spite of her having a few rough days before Friday's event, she was a trooper that afternoon. She was awake and very alert for the entire time [which surprised us], she smiled like she recognized at least some of the group, she occasionally even laughed [more like a chuckle], and she did try and do some chatting, too, when the various individuals would come over and sit with her [though much of what she says we can't understand]. But it did appear that she had a wonderful time and that was great. Especially after a couple weeks ago after a rough stretch, my dad had said that he wasn't sure if she would even last the night]. So even if she DOES go soon, we're glad she had this Christmas with us.
3.) Ok, I hope you're not too tired yet of hearing about my artist trading cards. If you are, then bear with me for just a couple minutes. As I mentioned in an earlier posting, I was able to get some folks from my ATC [yahoo] groups to swap some holiday cards with me. And it's been awesome getting these cards back in the mail. There's so much divirsity out there, people of all ages and around the world creating these miniature 'canvas's' to create something of themselves. I bet I've gotten close to 30 holiday ATCs through this swap [and thus, I sent that many out]. I also had some extras, so I randomly picked some names/addresses from one of the group's RAK list [Random Acts of Kindness--where we sign up if we're willing to send and/or recieve these RAKs. It's different from a regular swap in that the recipient is not required to send one back, though many of them do.] So I sent a few out to other countries as well as to maybe 6-8 people here in the US. As time goes on, I plan on sending out more RAKs. I received a couple a few months ago and it's always such a nice surprise [and one of them sent me 7 cards; how cool was that??]
Ok, so if any of you want to post something in the comments here about one of your favorite holiday events, please do so!
Moving beyond Christmas
It's the last day of the year and I'm ready to move on. Enough of the Christmas rush, shopping, post-holiday sales, and trying to be on our best behavior at the family gatherings [it's sooo much easier having fun with our friends' parties, isn't it?].
There's nothing wrong with the family gatherings; its the one time that most of us CAN get together since so many people are off work during this week. But it's always hectic getting ready for it and once everyone's there, it's so noisy with everyone talking at once, it's hard to figure out what's being said.
We had our family get-together on Friday [12/28]; we had 21 people hanging out and eating dinner in a private dining room in the retirement village where my parents live. The ages ranged from my parents [just 2 months short of being 80 and 78], down to 4 years of age. My parents had 4 of their 5 living children with them, along with their 3 daughter-in-laws, 7 grandkids, a cousin from Ireland with her husband and 2 kids, and one of my brother's nieces from his wife's side of the family. So as you can imagine, it was a loud and rowdy place. And we all were glad that we didn't have to set up the room nor tear it down; didn't have to cook the dinner, either.
The kids got together and did a dvd exchange while the adults did a book exchange and I think everyone went home happy.
I'm now all tired out from everything. I have difficulties with holidays in general [for reasons of my own], but besides the traditional holiday stuff, there is still the day-to-day routines to take care of. I still went to help with my mom as I do a couple times a week--but with the holiday, I was there an extra couple times [3 days in a row, 4 out of 5, and 6 in ten days, but who's counting?] And a few days ago, a friend wasn't doing well and I ended up having to take her to the hospital to be admitted. Went to see her today and she's doing better than she was but probably won't be discharged until the end of the week at the earliest.
Ok, enough for this posting...
There's nothing wrong with the family gatherings; its the one time that most of us CAN get together since so many people are off work during this week. But it's always hectic getting ready for it and once everyone's there, it's so noisy with everyone talking at once, it's hard to figure out what's being said.
We had our family get-together on Friday [12/28]; we had 21 people hanging out and eating dinner in a private dining room in the retirement village where my parents live. The ages ranged from my parents [just 2 months short of being 80 and 78], down to 4 years of age. My parents had 4 of their 5 living children with them, along with their 3 daughter-in-laws, 7 grandkids, a cousin from Ireland with her husband and 2 kids, and one of my brother's nieces from his wife's side of the family. So as you can imagine, it was a loud and rowdy place. And we all were glad that we didn't have to set up the room nor tear it down; didn't have to cook the dinner, either.
The kids got together and did a dvd exchange while the adults did a book exchange and I think everyone went home happy.
I'm now all tired out from everything. I have difficulties with holidays in general [for reasons of my own], but besides the traditional holiday stuff, there is still the day-to-day routines to take care of. I still went to help with my mom as I do a couple times a week--but with the holiday, I was there an extra couple times [3 days in a row, 4 out of 5, and 6 in ten days, but who's counting?] And a few days ago, a friend wasn't doing well and I ended up having to take her to the hospital to be admitted. Went to see her today and she's doing better than she was but probably won't be discharged until the end of the week at the earliest.
Ok, enough for this posting...
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
A Little Bit About Tea
As some of you already know, I am a big tea drinker. Iced tea, hot tea, Afternoon Tea [gotta love those scones, little sandwiches, the desserts, etc], tea by myself, tea with others. You get the picture.
I really miss the tea shop that I went to while living in Durham. And with it being only a mile away, I was there all the time. Besides learning the proper [best way] to fix tea, I quickly grew to love the loose tea that are a better grade than the regular stuff made by L&*%$n or the store brands [I'm not spelling out the L name since I don't want to get into any kind of legal problems]. I really do believe that many people that say they don't like tea, haven't had it brewed properly. It's definitely not a tasteless, bitter drink. And there are so many different varieties of tea [black, green, white, pekoe, pueher [sp?], varying caffiene levels or even without caffeine] grown in a variety of locations with various growing conditions from around the world. And of course, there is a variety of flavored teas as well, along with the herbal 'teas' [also called 'tisanes' because though they're LIKE tea, they don't have any of the tea plant in it]. And rooibus [also called red tea] is another great drink grown from a very similar plant as tea but is only found in South Africa. It doesn't have any caffeine and provides all kinds of healthy benefits [so healthy, it's even given to infants without any problems]. Personally, I'm not too crazy about the plain rooibus but do enjoy the flavored ones.
I've been running low on tea so I've been restocking some--I can't go through this cold, snowy and icey winter without my hot tea [I drink cold tea year round, too]. Yesterday morning, I had some iced chai. Today I had a holiday tea blend [by Harney's and Sons, one of the good tea companies]. I wonder what I'll decide to have tomorrow!?
If anyone would ever like to join me for tea, do let me know!
I really miss the tea shop that I went to while living in Durham. And with it being only a mile away, I was there all the time. Besides learning the proper [best way] to fix tea, I quickly grew to love the loose tea that are a better grade than the regular stuff made by L&*%$n or the store brands [I'm not spelling out the L name since I don't want to get into any kind of legal problems]. I really do believe that many people that say they don't like tea, haven't had it brewed properly. It's definitely not a tasteless, bitter drink. And there are so many different varieties of tea [black, green, white, pekoe, pueher [sp?], varying caffiene levels or even without caffeine] grown in a variety of locations with various growing conditions from around the world. And of course, there is a variety of flavored teas as well, along with the herbal 'teas' [also called 'tisanes' because though they're LIKE tea, they don't have any of the tea plant in it]. And rooibus [also called red tea] is another great drink grown from a very similar plant as tea but is only found in South Africa. It doesn't have any caffeine and provides all kinds of healthy benefits [so healthy, it's even given to infants without any problems]. Personally, I'm not too crazy about the plain rooibus but do enjoy the flavored ones.
I've been running low on tea so I've been restocking some--I can't go through this cold, snowy and icey winter without my hot tea [I drink cold tea year round, too]. Yesterday morning, I had some iced chai. Today I had a holiday tea blend [by Harney's and Sons, one of the good tea companies]. I wonder what I'll decide to have tomorrow!?
If anyone would ever like to join me for tea, do let me know!
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Pre-Holiday Ramblings
There are still a couple weeks til the Christmas holiday and I'm definitely having mixed feelings about it. On Sunday, I was at the annual Christmas party at the retirement village where my folks live. Everything was all decked out nicely [Christmas trees and poinsettas all over the place, lots of garland, ribbon, holiday lights, etc], there were lots of snacks and [non-alcoholic] drinks to consume while listening to live holiday music... And my 7 year-old niece got to sit on Santa's lap and tell him what she'd like this year. [Of course I took some pictures!]
So that was all fine and good. And I've been enjoying seeing the holiday lights in the neighborhood. But I'm not decorating at all. With having to downsize with my last couple moves, I had to give away all of the stuff I had [and some I've had for years]. Maybe I can find something at the dollar store or something [but yet, I don't want anything tacky, or to get stuff just for the sake of having something].
And baking... Holiday cookie baking was a big thing in my family during my growing up years. We'd make a big variety, then package up plates to pass out to neighbors and friends; that was always fun. And for a couple years before moving south, I hosted a holiday cookie exchange. I miss doing that sort of thing but I just can't afford to do any extra cooking or baking right now. Such is life; I can still recall the memories--with the help from my scrapbooks!
This is one of the big 'family' time of year... But as with a lot of families that are spread out all over the place and siblings that have family obligations on their spouse's side, it's not so easy getting together at one time [maybe that's a good thing for a lot of us; me included]. So we're not having our gathering until later that week. All of my brothers and their families will meet at one brother's house... But it looks like my younger sister won't make it home til sometime in January. And my parents can't make it because my mother can't travel. However, I heard awhile back that a cousin and family will be coming for a visit from Ireland. I hope that'll work out, I haven't seen her in years!
Ok, this is getting way too long and boring. I'm hesitating on even posting it but will anyway. I might actually want to go back and reread it some day. And if I don't post it here, I'll never find it again!
So that was all fine and good. And I've been enjoying seeing the holiday lights in the neighborhood. But I'm not decorating at all. With having to downsize with my last couple moves, I had to give away all of the stuff I had [and some I've had for years]. Maybe I can find something at the dollar store or something [but yet, I don't want anything tacky, or to get stuff just for the sake of having something].
And baking... Holiday cookie baking was a big thing in my family during my growing up years. We'd make a big variety, then package up plates to pass out to neighbors and friends; that was always fun. And for a couple years before moving south, I hosted a holiday cookie exchange. I miss doing that sort of thing but I just can't afford to do any extra cooking or baking right now. Such is life; I can still recall the memories--with the help from my scrapbooks!
This is one of the big 'family' time of year... But as with a lot of families that are spread out all over the place and siblings that have family obligations on their spouse's side, it's not so easy getting together at one time [maybe that's a good thing for a lot of us; me included]. So we're not having our gathering until later that week. All of my brothers and their families will meet at one brother's house... But it looks like my younger sister won't make it home til sometime in January. And my parents can't make it because my mother can't travel. However, I heard awhile back that a cousin and family will be coming for a visit from Ireland. I hope that'll work out, I haven't seen her in years!
Ok, this is getting way too long and boring. I'm hesitating on even posting it but will anyway. I might actually want to go back and reread it some day. And if I don't post it here, I'll never find it again!
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Getting into the Holiday Spirit?
Ok, with it now being December, it's alright to start thinking about the Christmas Holidays. I know a lot of people would agree that the stores are trying to get us to spend before Halloween is unreal [well, unless you're one of the few that have their shopping done and gifts wrapped by Labor Day]. I am *not* one of those people that enjoy going to the mall and/or shopping just for shopping's sake. Do people really think that's fun?] [Well, it's only fun if we're talking book stores or craft stores; anything else, it's just another chore to me.]
But now, it's kind of nice seeing the christmas lights on in the neighborhood [I've already seen more lights up in my neighborhood this winter than I ever have since I was a kid]. Granted, some of the displays in people's front yards are kind of tacky, but some people must like them! And now when I hear any Christmas tunes playing on the radio, I won't automatically turn the radio off. There's at least one station in the metro-Detroit area that starting playing Christmas music in early November--so there was no way I was going to listen to that over and over and over again before Thanksgiving. But now I can start thinking about getting out my holiday cd's and select my favorites and burn them on a new cd.
I'm not saying that I'm a big fan of the winter holidays; for many years, I haven't been. But since they keep showing up every year, perhaps I need to start changing my attitude a little bit. I don't expect any major Christmas miracles or anything like that but perhaps I can find ways to have a little bit of fun without spending the money that I don't have to spend.
So there IS a project that I'm working on right now that I hope will get me in the right frame of mind. In one of my first blog entries, I mentioned Artist Trading Cards [ATCs]. These are similar to the sports trading cards but ATCs are made by hand [as individual pieces of art, on a 2.5"x3.5" 'canvas' of sorts] and are meant to be traded, not sold. There are multiple on-line trading groups with people to swap with [sometimes as part of an organized swap with a particular theme, or on an individual swap basis], as well as many local groups around the world that meet and trade in person.
So there are a couple on-line groups that I've been with since early summer. With each of these 2 groups, I'm creating some Christmas as well as some Winter-themed ATCs and am doing some individual trades with others in these groups. One can post a particular interest to the group and see who else wants to swap; I posted this week and I already have about 12 cards ready to mailed off tomorrow [and am waiting for addresses on a few more]. So I should start getting some ATCs back in the mail within the next week or two and I'm really looking forward to it!
I've also participated in a couple swaps where a host will pick a particular theme and asks for interested participants to send in X number of cards that somehow represent that theme. Then, when all the cards are received by him/her by a set date, she will then send you back X number of different cards on that theme. I have been really impressed by some of the creativity that people have. Some cards have been rather elaborate, others have been simple, and just about all of them have been great additions to my collection. I've been involved with trading off and on for several years now and I just love browsing through my collection book [using those 9-pocket pages that sports card enthusiasts keep their cards in, and putting them into a binder].
So, with tomorrow being another day in December, I hope to get a few more of these holiday cards created. And find more people to play/trade with. Maybe this WILL really get me into the holiday mood. It's fun, creative, and doesn't have to cost too much. I can go for that! [Anyone reading this want to do any trading? Even if you don't know how yet, it's fun and easy to learn; I'll work with you! It's addicting, too. :-) ]
But now, it's kind of nice seeing the christmas lights on in the neighborhood [I've already seen more lights up in my neighborhood this winter than I ever have since I was a kid]. Granted, some of the displays in people's front yards are kind of tacky, but some people must like them! And now when I hear any Christmas tunes playing on the radio, I won't automatically turn the radio off. There's at least one station in the metro-Detroit area that starting playing Christmas music in early November--so there was no way I was going to listen to that over and over and over again before Thanksgiving. But now I can start thinking about getting out my holiday cd's and select my favorites and burn them on a new cd.
I'm not saying that I'm a big fan of the winter holidays; for many years, I haven't been. But since they keep showing up every year, perhaps I need to start changing my attitude a little bit. I don't expect any major Christmas miracles or anything like that but perhaps I can find ways to have a little bit of fun without spending the money that I don't have to spend.
So there IS a project that I'm working on right now that I hope will get me in the right frame of mind. In one of my first blog entries, I mentioned Artist Trading Cards [ATCs]. These are similar to the sports trading cards but ATCs are made by hand [as individual pieces of art, on a 2.5"x3.5" 'canvas' of sorts] and are meant to be traded, not sold. There are multiple on-line trading groups with people to swap with [sometimes as part of an organized swap with a particular theme, or on an individual swap basis], as well as many local groups around the world that meet and trade in person.
So there are a couple on-line groups that I've been with since early summer. With each of these 2 groups, I'm creating some Christmas as well as some Winter-themed ATCs and am doing some individual trades with others in these groups. One can post a particular interest to the group and see who else wants to swap; I posted this week and I already have about 12 cards ready to mailed off tomorrow [and am waiting for addresses on a few more]. So I should start getting some ATCs back in the mail within the next week or two and I'm really looking forward to it!
I've also participated in a couple swaps where a host will pick a particular theme and asks for interested participants to send in X number of cards that somehow represent that theme. Then, when all the cards are received by him/her by a set date, she will then send you back X number of different cards on that theme. I have been really impressed by some of the creativity that people have. Some cards have been rather elaborate, others have been simple, and just about all of them have been great additions to my collection. I've been involved with trading off and on for several years now and I just love browsing through my collection book [using those 9-pocket pages that sports card enthusiasts keep their cards in, and putting them into a binder].
So, with tomorrow being another day in December, I hope to get a few more of these holiday cards created. And find more people to play/trade with. Maybe this WILL really get me into the holiday mood. It's fun, creative, and doesn't have to cost too much. I can go for that! [Anyone reading this want to do any trading? Even if you don't know how yet, it's fun and easy to learn; I'll work with you! It's addicting, too. :-) ]
Monday, November 26, 2007
The Approaching Winter
It snowed today. Not enough to stick to the ground, but it did snow those gentle falling flakes. It actually looked pretty; with the gray clouds enclosing the neighborhood, it looked like one of those snow-globes.
I don't mind the snow for the first part of the season-through the holidays and even a bit into January. Though, growing up in Michigan, my childhood memories were of snow from November through March or so, and lots of it. Our house backed up to a golf course-so we had a huge winter playground for playing, sledding, throwing snowballs etc with our friends. Later, we got into cross country skiing, too. Back then, the cold didn't seem to phase us all that much [only when walking to and from school!], so I did enjoy the winter months back then.
But as an adult it just isn't the same. Having to dig the car out from the snow, scraping off the ice, having to drive to work in the stuff, and later in the winter, the brown trees/landscape, dirty snow, endless cloudy skies, it's a lot of work. Not to mention having to clear off the driveways and sidewalks, bundling up in heavy coats, and having to dig around for hats, scarves, and gloves. Maybe I wouldn't mind it quite so much if it *wasn't* so COLD all the time. I don't like the cold at all, especially with the long months of winter here in Michigan. Maybe I should feel lucky that I don't live in Canada or Alaska.
This dislike of the winter became much more pronounced during the years I lived in North Carolina. We did have winter down there with occasional snow or ice, but it was still much milder and it was a much shorter season. So while living there, I could better appreciate the beauty that snow can provide but not have it last so long.
I'm back in Michigan now. For the time being, I CAN enjoy the yearly novelty of the snow and cold. But I'm also dreaming about being in the tropical south, with the temperatures much more moderate, having blue skies, greenery year-round, living on the ocean with the sand, the crashing of the waves, salt in the air, listening to the sea gulls, searching for sea shells, and wondering what a tropical Christmas would be like. So far, it's only in my imagination, but I really hope that this dream can and will come true someday. So, Santa, this is what I'd like for Christmas, some time in the near future, ok?
I don't mind the snow for the first part of the season-through the holidays and even a bit into January. Though, growing up in Michigan, my childhood memories were of snow from November through March or so, and lots of it. Our house backed up to a golf course-so we had a huge winter playground for playing, sledding, throwing snowballs etc with our friends. Later, we got into cross country skiing, too. Back then, the cold didn't seem to phase us all that much [only when walking to and from school!], so I did enjoy the winter months back then.
But as an adult it just isn't the same. Having to dig the car out from the snow, scraping off the ice, having to drive to work in the stuff, and later in the winter, the brown trees/landscape, dirty snow, endless cloudy skies, it's a lot of work. Not to mention having to clear off the driveways and sidewalks, bundling up in heavy coats, and having to dig around for hats, scarves, and gloves. Maybe I wouldn't mind it quite so much if it *wasn't* so COLD all the time. I don't like the cold at all, especially with the long months of winter here in Michigan. Maybe I should feel lucky that I don't live in Canada or Alaska.
This dislike of the winter became much more pronounced during the years I lived in North Carolina. We did have winter down there with occasional snow or ice, but it was still much milder and it was a much shorter season. So while living there, I could better appreciate the beauty that snow can provide but not have it last so long.
I'm back in Michigan now. For the time being, I CAN enjoy the yearly novelty of the snow and cold. But I'm also dreaming about being in the tropical south, with the temperatures much more moderate, having blue skies, greenery year-round, living on the ocean with the sand, the crashing of the waves, salt in the air, listening to the sea gulls, searching for sea shells, and wondering what a tropical Christmas would be like. So far, it's only in my imagination, but I really hope that this dream can and will come true someday. So, Santa, this is what I'd like for Christmas, some time in the near future, ok?
Monday, November 19, 2007
Looking Back and Then Moving On
Today, being the Monday of Thanksgiving week, is the unofficial 22nd anniversary of gaining my freedom from a bad marriage [it became official during Art Fair week the following summer]. The so called marriage lasted 6 1/2 years and that was about 8-9 years too long! I guess with being so young, I thought I was going to be superwoman and make it all work out. Looking back, I'm so glad that it didn't; it was definitely one of the black periods in my life.
So why am I writing about this now? Most likely, since I often mull over it each year, it's something that I need to let go of. I did what I needed to do at the time--save enough $$ for a deposit on an apt, find where I could afford to live, sort MY stuff from the ex's, and make the actual move. It definitely wasn't one of my favorite Thanksgivings that year!
It took me a few more years [and relationships] to learn that I CAN be friends with someone of the opposite sex. That was refreshing to finally learn [yeah, I'm a slow learner]. I've also learned that I actually enjoy having my own space and the freedom in not having to account to anyone else. Not to say that I don't want or need friends because I do, it's just that it's ok [and often fun] to be single!
And I guess that's what I have to be thankful for, free to let go of the past, accept where I am now, and move on.
So why am I writing about this now? Most likely, since I often mull over it each year, it's something that I need to let go of. I did what I needed to do at the time--save enough $$ for a deposit on an apt, find where I could afford to live, sort MY stuff from the ex's, and make the actual move. It definitely wasn't one of my favorite Thanksgivings that year!
It took me a few more years [and relationships] to learn that I CAN be friends with someone of the opposite sex. That was refreshing to finally learn [yeah, I'm a slow learner]. I've also learned that I actually enjoy having my own space and the freedom in not having to account to anyone else. Not to say that I don't want or need friends because I do, it's just that it's ok [and often fun] to be single!
And I guess that's what I have to be thankful for, free to let go of the past, accept where I am now, and move on.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
What Kids Can Do These Days
This past weekend, I went to see the musical that my nephew's in. The play is 'Oklahoma!' and though I knew it was a western, I wasn't familiar with the story line. [For those of you that know the story, my nephew played the part of 'Curly', one of the lead characters.]
Anyway, I was really impressed with Christopher and the rest of the cast; they were really awesome--in the acting as well as all of the singing and dancing [and no, I'm not saying this just because I'm his proud aunt. :-) ].
I really don't see how these kids can memorize all of their lines, learn the songs and dances and such [for a performance that was almost 3 hours long!]. Along with going to school, many of these kids are taking AP classes, other outside activities like sports, other clubs or jobs, and find time to study, to eat, sleep, etc. And so many of them get good grades AND perform so well. There's no way that I could do even half of what these kids are doing these days. Not just this nephew, but all 7 of my nieces and nephews are keeping as busy and are doing so well in their chosen activities.
In some ways, it's sad to see them all grow up so fast but it's also wonderful for me to sit back and watch them develop into the fine individuals that they are. I realize that a lot of people see this sort of thing with their own kids, but me, I don't have the pleasure of having kids of my own. But in so many ways, I think I'm in a better spot since I get to see them doing these things they love [be it performing in a play, a soccer game, or even with their computer games]; I can talk and hang out with them in ways parents can't, yet I don't have to bug them to do their chores, to pay the bills, make them eat their vegetables, or to remind them to brush their teeth before going to bed.
It's cool being an aunt; I just wish I could see them more often. You know kids, though; they have their own lives to live...
Anyway, I was really impressed with Christopher and the rest of the cast; they were really awesome--in the acting as well as all of the singing and dancing [and no, I'm not saying this just because I'm his proud aunt. :-) ].
I really don't see how these kids can memorize all of their lines, learn the songs and dances and such [for a performance that was almost 3 hours long!]. Along with going to school, many of these kids are taking AP classes, other outside activities like sports, other clubs or jobs, and find time to study, to eat, sleep, etc. And so many of them get good grades AND perform so well. There's no way that I could do even half of what these kids are doing these days. Not just this nephew, but all 7 of my nieces and nephews are keeping as busy and are doing so well in their chosen activities.
In some ways, it's sad to see them all grow up so fast but it's also wonderful for me to sit back and watch them develop into the fine individuals that they are. I realize that a lot of people see this sort of thing with their own kids, but me, I don't have the pleasure of having kids of my own. But in so many ways, I think I'm in a better spot since I get to see them doing these things they love [be it performing in a play, a soccer game, or even with their computer games]; I can talk and hang out with them in ways parents can't, yet I don't have to bug them to do their chores, to pay the bills, make them eat their vegetables, or to remind them to brush their teeth before going to bed.
It's cool being an aunt; I just wish I could see them more often. You know kids, though; they have their own lives to live...
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Work & Identity
It seems like in our society, so much of our 'identity' is tied up with what we do for a living. A lot of people feel varying levels of validation based on how the living is earned. Not only in how much we earn [with perceptions of higher pay=higher status], but also in how we view the work we do. Kind of like, is this a 'job' to primarily pay the bills or is it more of a career, doing something we're passionate about? I would hope that doing something we're passionate about, regardless of pay, would add to the positive views of who we are and what we might want to become. Is this making any sense [as I'm rambling on...]?
This past week, I've been mulling over these issues and am trying to look at the bigger picture. We're more than just the jobs we do to provide an income, more than 'just' being a parent, someone's kid or sibling, etc. There's the stuff we enjoy doing outside of work-- hobbies, cooking, things we do with friends, volunteering for your favorite cause... If we're so tied up/involved with the paid work we do, do we alsso value the other parts of what makes us tick? Or do we even know what those other parts or values are? Are these other 'things' even important?
All of these questions are bouncing around in my head right now because I've been on disability for a few years. And though I struggled in my last few work years due to health issues, not contributing was [and is] still a struggle to deal with. Adding to that is [mostly] well-meaning family and friends that try to convince me I 'should' return to being an employee somewhere. However, this is not a viable option.
Early in the year, though, I hooked up with a Social Securtity-approved vocational rehab center and was assigned a case worker to assist in finding a job. We met every 4-6 weeks and concluded that work woudn't work for me. Now, since I no longer need her assistance, this past Monday we closed out my case.
Shouldn't I be relieved that another professional agrees? I am. But I'm sad, too. I'm fully aware of the harm work could do to me but the door way on the other side of the room was still slightly ajar, waiting for me to go through and land that elusive perfect job. Now the northern winds have blown through, slamming that door shut with no means to escape.
So how can I change or add to my identity now? One of the things could be to brainstorm a list of what things I've always wanted to try and, if money was not an issue, learn as much as I can on one or two of these things. Maybe collect news articles,maps, brochures... Find or make some sort of artistic representation and put them these together and create a 'dream' book/journal [and continue to do the same with other ideas]. Take a class, read, talk with others that aren't working and identify areas that you have in common and the differences. Ask what sort of qualities, values, interests they have.... It can add new perspectives.
I'm trying to process how this identity will change as I grow up. [Do I even WANT to grow up? Well, enough of this going on and on; this can be a separate posting some other day.] In the meantime, just spend some time in just being.
This past week, I've been mulling over these issues and am trying to look at the bigger picture. We're more than just the jobs we do to provide an income, more than 'just' being a parent, someone's kid or sibling, etc. There's the stuff we enjoy doing outside of work-- hobbies, cooking, things we do with friends, volunteering for your favorite cause... If we're so tied up/involved with the paid work we do, do we alsso value the other parts of what makes us tick? Or do we even know what those other parts or values are? Are these other 'things' even important?
All of these questions are bouncing around in my head right now because I've been on disability for a few years. And though I struggled in my last few work years due to health issues, not contributing was [and is] still a struggle to deal with. Adding to that is [mostly] well-meaning family and friends that try to convince me I 'should' return to being an employee somewhere. However, this is not a viable option.
Early in the year, though, I hooked up with a Social Securtity-approved vocational rehab center and was assigned a case worker to assist in finding a job. We met every 4-6 weeks and concluded that work woudn't work for me. Now, since I no longer need her assistance, this past Monday we closed out my case.
Shouldn't I be relieved that another professional agrees? I am. But I'm sad, too. I'm fully aware of the harm work could do to me but the door way on the other side of the room was still slightly ajar, waiting for me to go through and land that elusive perfect job. Now the northern winds have blown through, slamming that door shut with no means to escape.
So how can I change or add to my identity now? One of the things could be to brainstorm a list of what things I've always wanted to try and, if money was not an issue, learn as much as I can on one or two of these things. Maybe collect news articles,maps, brochures... Find or make some sort of artistic representation and put them these together and create a 'dream' book/journal [and continue to do the same with other ideas]. Take a class, read, talk with others that aren't working and identify areas that you have in common and the differences. Ask what sort of qualities, values, interests they have.... It can add new perspectives.
I'm trying to process how this identity will change as I grow up. [Do I even WANT to grow up? Well, enough of this going on and on; this can be a separate posting some other day.] In the meantime, just spend some time in just being.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
More Reading Tips
Continued from yesterday... Some of these ideas are common sense but heck, who says I *have* any common sense? :-) Ignore these as you see fit.
-Make reading a challenge. Maybe a couple books a week, a chapter every day, 40 books in a year. Whatever it is to keep you reading without being overwhelming or feeling that it's a chore.
-Cut back on tv and online reading. I guess we need to make time somehow!
-Join a book club. Check out what the library or local bookstores have to offer. If you know other book-lovers, think about starting your own book club. I've been in a bookstore club as well as with friends; it's always interesting to get other people's interpretation of the reading material. If nothing else, check out some of the online forums. And a lot of authors have their own websites.
-Always carry a book with you. We never know when we'll get stuck waiting somewhere; use this bit of time as an escape.
-Read what you can't put down. That'll keep us going! On the same notion, if you're not enjoying the book, don't feel obligated to finish it!
-Always have books to read. This author said that he usually has at least 5 books from his list on-hand. If you get yours from the library, get several at one time. Or, if you're like me and want to OWN them [after all, they're friends who've poured their hearts out to me], check out the used bookstores, resale shops [I recently got a few from the Salvation Army store], or your library's 'Friends of the Library' sale. My local library's 'friends' store is open a few hours, 6 days a week!
-Connect with your passions. Not just a passion to read more books but to stay connected to whatever else floats your boat.
[I probably should add here that eachl suggestion is the author Leo from Zen Habits, as mentioned yesterday. But in most of the posts, I've added my 2 cents worth as well. I also didn't include every single one.]
If any of you have other ideas and/or specific titles or authors to recommend, please do so here in the comments section. I'd love to hear and probably want to read them, too!
-Make reading a challenge. Maybe a couple books a week, a chapter every day, 40 books in a year. Whatever it is to keep you reading without being overwhelming or feeling that it's a chore.
-Cut back on tv and online reading. I guess we need to make time somehow!
-Join a book club. Check out what the library or local bookstores have to offer. If you know other book-lovers, think about starting your own book club. I've been in a bookstore club as well as with friends; it's always interesting to get other people's interpretation of the reading material. If nothing else, check out some of the online forums. And a lot of authors have their own websites.
-Always carry a book with you. We never know when we'll get stuck waiting somewhere; use this bit of time as an escape.
-Read what you can't put down. That'll keep us going! On the same notion, if you're not enjoying the book, don't feel obligated to finish it!
-Always have books to read. This author said that he usually has at least 5 books from his list on-hand. If you get yours from the library, get several at one time. Or, if you're like me and want to OWN them [after all, they're friends who've poured their hearts out to me], check out the used bookstores, resale shops [I recently got a few from the Salvation Army store], or your library's 'Friends of the Library' sale. My local library's 'friends' store is open a few hours, 6 days a week!
-Connect with your passions. Not just a passion to read more books but to stay connected to whatever else floats your boat.
[I probably should add here that eachl suggestion is the author Leo from Zen Habits, as mentioned yesterday. But in most of the posts, I've added my 2 cents worth as well. I also didn't include every single one.]
If any of you have other ideas and/or specific titles or authors to recommend, please do so here in the comments section. I'd love to hear and probably want to read them, too!
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Becoming a Bookworm
In my previous post, I mentioned my intent to do more reading. So it was appropriate that I came across a post that has a few suggestions to help with this. So many of us have the goal to read more but with all of the distractions out there, reading time often gets neglected. The info came from an article by 'Leo' of Zen Habits [I haven't checked the rest if the site out yet, though]... Maybe these ideas will help more than just me. :-)
--Make it a habit to read at certain time[s] every day, even if its for only 10-20 minutes. If you do some reading before or during breakfast, as an afternoon refresher break, and before retiring for the evening, that's already half an hour or more a day. Even with this minimum allottment of time adds up to 3 1/2+ hours a week!
--Keep a reading list - in an online document or a notebook or journal [There are always stuff I want to read but unless I write them down, I won't remember them when I'm at the bookstore or library.] List the title and author and perhaps where you heard about the book [from a review, a friend, if it was given to you by someone...]. When I see others reading a book, often I'll approach and ask what they're reading and what they think of it. This gives me ideas that I may not have considered before; that's always cool. And the author suggested having a running book list to motivate us to keep reading.
--Keep a book log of what you've read. Make it as simple or as detailed as you'd like. Start with the title and author and consider adding a summary or comments and perhaps when you started and/or finished it.
I'll add a few more of these tips later on in a separate posting...
--Make it a habit to read at certain time[s] every day, even if its for only 10-20 minutes. If you do some reading before or during breakfast, as an afternoon refresher break, and before retiring for the evening, that's already half an hour or more a day. Even with this minimum allottment of time adds up to 3 1/2+ hours a week!
--Keep a reading list - in an online document or a notebook or journal [There are always stuff I want to read but unless I write them down, I won't remember them when I'm at the bookstore or library.] List the title and author and perhaps where you heard about the book [from a review, a friend, if it was given to you by someone...]. When I see others reading a book, often I'll approach and ask what they're reading and what they think of it. This gives me ideas that I may not have considered before; that's always cool. And the author suggested having a running book list to motivate us to keep reading.
--Keep a book log of what you've read. Make it as simple or as detailed as you'd like. Start with the title and author and consider adding a summary or comments and perhaps when you started and/or finished it.
I'll add a few more of these tips later on in a separate posting...
Sunday, November 4, 2007
My Commandments
I was reading a blog last evening [the author is working on a 'happiness project'; I do need to go back to her site and read more of what she has to say about this topic; I'm sure I can learn something from it. :-)
On this site, she lists her commandments, kind of like those resolutions that we try and work on at the beginning of each year. Though I didn't write any of hers down, it got me wondering about what kinds of things I can focus on along this journey. So here are a few that I just came up with. I'm sure they'll need a bit of tweaking here and there and I'll probably come up with others, but this is a start. And those of you that may be reading this post, feel free to come up with some of your own. You don't have to share them here in the comments section but please do if you're so inclined. I'd like the company. :-)
1. Identify. I dentify those thoughts and feelings that I tend to supress. Take action on the important ones and let go of the rest.
2.Read. Always make time to read; there are all kinds of worlds out there to discover.
3. Create. Find some meants of being creative and/or artistic at least once a week. Do it.
4. Connect. On a daily basis, find a way to connect in some tangible way with any of the following: Another person, other thoughts and ideas to identify with, or finding other ways to do something new or different that I may benefit or grow.
5. Positive. Begin to think more positively so that I can BE more positive [this will take some working on].
On this site, she lists her commandments, kind of like those resolutions that we try and work on at the beginning of each year. Though I didn't write any of hers down, it got me wondering about what kinds of things I can focus on along this journey. So here are a few that I just came up with. I'm sure they'll need a bit of tweaking here and there and I'll probably come up with others, but this is a start. And those of you that may be reading this post, feel free to come up with some of your own. You don't have to share them here in the comments section but please do if you're so inclined. I'd like the company. :-)
1. Identify. I dentify those thoughts and feelings that I tend to supress. Take action on the important ones and let go of the rest.
2.Read. Always make time to read; there are all kinds of worlds out there to discover.
3. Create. Find some meants of being creative and/or artistic at least once a week. Do it.
4. Connect. On a daily basis, find a way to connect in some tangible way with any of the following: Another person, other thoughts and ideas to identify with, or finding other ways to do something new or different that I may benefit or grow.
5. Positive. Begin to think more positively so that I can BE more positive [this will take some working on].
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Memories of Halloween
This is one of days I wish I was a kid again. Gotta love those times dressing up/becoming someone different for the night [I was never really into playing 'dress-up' the rest of the year] and acting the part. October 31st was a night when you WERE something other than yourself. And then running through the neighborhood getting all of the candy we could. What can be better than that?
I had 6 brothers and sisters, so after school, the house would be full of us running around getting ready. Of course, we knew way in advance what we were going to be [and what our friends were going to be] but that afternoon, we still had to pull everything together. This was before all of the commercialism where parents would be the kid's costume from the grocery or drug store. And can you imagine having to buy 7 costumes every year? So we had to be pretty creative. The only thing that I didn't like, though, was my parents making us put on heavy clothing under the costumes so we wouldn't get cold. Cold? Who would get cold on a night like this? Well, maybe here in Michigan...
Some of the things I became on Halloween were: a gypsy, devil, baseball player, cave man [I think I was a cave man 2 years in a row], and an Indian. None of these other beings could be all that bulky, we didn't want to be hindered as we went door-to-door. I remember feeling so grown up when I was able to head out with friends instead of tagging along with my older siblings. And then, at the end of the evening, we HAD to see who had the biggest stash of goods.
In a lot of ways, I liked halloween even more than Christmas. It was so much more of a participatory event, from planning who we'd be [and changing our minds so often], figuring out how to create and then BE that character in any way we wanted, making plans with our friends as to the best route through the neighborhood in the quickest time, and then getting a pillow-case full of treats, stuff we weren't often allowed to have during the rest of the year.
Such memories; oh to be a kid again. But the next generation is following our traditions; this evening, I get to see who my 7 year old niece will be for the night AND I get to help pass out the treats for the other ghosts and goblins. Hmm, what am I going to be this evening?
I had 6 brothers and sisters, so after school, the house would be full of us running around getting ready. Of course, we knew way in advance what we were going to be [and what our friends were going to be] but that afternoon, we still had to pull everything together. This was before all of the commercialism where parents would be the kid's costume from the grocery or drug store. And can you imagine having to buy 7 costumes every year? So we had to be pretty creative. The only thing that I didn't like, though, was my parents making us put on heavy clothing under the costumes so we wouldn't get cold. Cold? Who would get cold on a night like this? Well, maybe here in Michigan...
Some of the things I became on Halloween were: a gypsy, devil, baseball player, cave man [I think I was a cave man 2 years in a row], and an Indian. None of these other beings could be all that bulky, we didn't want to be hindered as we went door-to-door. I remember feeling so grown up when I was able to head out with friends instead of tagging along with my older siblings. And then, at the end of the evening, we HAD to see who had the biggest stash of goods.
In a lot of ways, I liked halloween even more than Christmas. It was so much more of a participatory event, from planning who we'd be [and changing our minds so often], figuring out how to create and then BE that character in any way we wanted, making plans with our friends as to the best route through the neighborhood in the quickest time, and then getting a pillow-case full of treats, stuff we weren't often allowed to have during the rest of the year.
Such memories; oh to be a kid again. But the next generation is following our traditions; this evening, I get to see who my 7 year old niece will be for the night AND I get to help pass out the treats for the other ghosts and goblins. Hmm, what am I going to be this evening?
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Inner Child, Inner Brat
In a comment left after my first post, there was a mention of nurturing your inner child. And there is a lot of truth in that. And though I'm not going to make this entire blog about art and creativity, I'll mention that in this book 'The Artist Way' I started working on [with an online group], the author says early in the book that we all have an inner artist within us and she compares it to some extant, to our inner child.
I haven't really done much reading about this topic of the inner child but I certainly have heard about it. Reading the comment after my post, I recalled hearing something about our 'Inner Brat'. So I did a quick google search and came across this book:
"Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-Defeating Behavior" by Pauline Wallin, PhD. Here's a part of what the blurb said:
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"Why did I say that?" "I can't believe I ate all that!" "What was I thinking?" We've all asked these questions of ourselves at one time or another. Every one of us has said or done something that we later regret, even though we know better. And we're likely to do it over and over again.
There are specific reasons why we repeat such patterns. The reasons are embodied in a concept called the "inner brat." Not a psychiatric diagnosis, this inner brat is nevertheless responsible for getting us into trouble with ourselves and others. People with a strong inner brat lash out at others; they fall into addictive patterns of eating, drinking, or smoking; they get involved in affairs or end up in self-defeating cycles. They don't acknowledge blame or responsibility for what goes wrong in their lives. And despite how they may appear to others, they are usually unhappy with themselves.
If you have any of the following problems, you may be suffering from an overactive inner brat:
Self-defeating tendencies: procrastination, overeating, shopping, extra-marital affairs
Addictive behaviors: smoking, drinking, gambling, drug use
Interpersonal behavior: temper tantrums, sulking, sarcasm
Personal feelings: self-pity, injustice, petty jealousy, envy, chronic anger or resentment
Antisocial behavior: shoplifting, road rage
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It goes on, but you get the general idea. I think this is something that I may look into a bit deeper; I know I do have a lot of these issues...
I haven't really done much reading about this topic of the inner child but I certainly have heard about it. Reading the comment after my post, I recalled hearing something about our 'Inner Brat'. So I did a quick google search and came across this book:
"Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-Defeating Behavior" by Pauline Wallin, PhD. Here's a part of what the blurb said:
_______
"Why did I say that?" "I can't believe I ate all that!" "What was I thinking?" We've all asked these questions of ourselves at one time or another. Every one of us has said or done something that we later regret, even though we know better. And we're likely to do it over and over again.
There are specific reasons why we repeat such patterns. The reasons are embodied in a concept called the "inner brat." Not a psychiatric diagnosis, this inner brat is nevertheless responsible for getting us into trouble with ourselves and others. People with a strong inner brat lash out at others; they fall into addictive patterns of eating, drinking, or smoking; they get involved in affairs or end up in self-defeating cycles. They don't acknowledge blame or responsibility for what goes wrong in their lives. And despite how they may appear to others, they are usually unhappy with themselves.
If you have any of the following problems, you may be suffering from an overactive inner brat:
Self-defeating tendencies: procrastination, overeating, shopping, extra-marital affairs
Addictive behaviors: smoking, drinking, gambling, drug use
Interpersonal behavior: temper tantrums, sulking, sarcasm
Personal feelings: self-pity, injustice, petty jealousy, envy, chronic anger or resentment
Antisocial behavior: shoplifting, road rage
-----
It goes on, but you get the general idea. I think this is something that I may look into a bit deeper; I know I do have a lot of these issues...
Creativity, Trying to Bump It Up a Notch
Still to this day, I wish I was good at some sort of artistic endeavor, be it some sort of drawing or painting, writing stories, designing something fashionable and comfortable, perhaps even designing my own clothing line in styles and sizes to flatter MY figure, not what the media shows us, or maybe even drawing up the blueprints for that cottage I want on the beach. Just don't make me have to sing.
Well, I don't have the talent or drive to accomplish these lofty goals. But I *am* trying to get back into some sort of artisitc mode. Over the years, I've taken 100s and 100s [probably thousands] of photos--mainly candids/people shots but lots of nature as well. I'm not a professional by any means but I do need to get me and my camera out there and start shooting again. Something different, something to get myself out of this rut. Once I do, I'm hoping my creativity will open up in other areas as well [like maybe trying again to do a bit of writing; hence, my starting this blog and see what happens].
I think in one of the earlier posts, I mentioned artist trading cards [ATCs] that people create using all kinds of different materials. Some of these cards are simple, others are very elaborate, and everything in between. There are a few that I've received in swaps that I'm not all that crazy about, but that's ok; it's still art, but the others are awesome! There's no right or wrong way or style in creating these cards other than they should be the size of a standard trading card--2.5"x3.5" [like a standard playing card] and these should be traded, not sold. I initially learned about these things at a scrapbook store in Raleigh, NC; the store owner taught a class; we had time afterwards to create a few and then swap some of them with other class participants. Other swaps were held later, as well. And there are a number of online trading groups with participants ranging from youth to retirees, many just starting out in anything artistic to those that are professional artists. And the participants [male and female] are literally from around the world. Since moving away from NC, I hadn't spent much time trying to do anything at all creative or artisitc until just recently. I found someone to scrapbook with and I signed on to a couple of the ATC online groups-and have already participated in a couple of the swaps. I hope this is something I'll stick with [as long as I see some progress along the way--or at least have fun in trying].
This form of art can open us up to more creativity, creativity brings us more art. And what's wrong with that?
Well, I don't have the talent or drive to accomplish these lofty goals. But I *am* trying to get back into some sort of artisitc mode. Over the years, I've taken 100s and 100s [probably thousands] of photos--mainly candids/people shots but lots of nature as well. I'm not a professional by any means but I do need to get me and my camera out there and start shooting again. Something different, something to get myself out of this rut. Once I do, I'm hoping my creativity will open up in other areas as well [like maybe trying again to do a bit of writing; hence, my starting this blog and see what happens].
I think in one of the earlier posts, I mentioned artist trading cards [ATCs] that people create using all kinds of different materials. Some of these cards are simple, others are very elaborate, and everything in between. There are a few that I've received in swaps that I'm not all that crazy about, but that's ok; it's still art, but the others are awesome! There's no right or wrong way or style in creating these cards other than they should be the size of a standard trading card--2.5"x3.5" [like a standard playing card] and these should be traded, not sold. I initially learned about these things at a scrapbook store in Raleigh, NC; the store owner taught a class; we had time afterwards to create a few and then swap some of them with other class participants. Other swaps were held later, as well. And there are a number of online trading groups with participants ranging from youth to retirees, many just starting out in anything artistic to those that are professional artists. And the participants [male and female] are literally from around the world. Since moving away from NC, I hadn't spent much time trying to do anything at all creative or artisitc until just recently. I found someone to scrapbook with and I signed on to a couple of the ATC online groups-and have already participated in a couple of the swaps. I hope this is something I'll stick with [as long as I see some progress along the way--or at least have fun in trying].
This form of art can open us up to more creativity, creativity brings us more art. And what's wrong with that?
Saturday, October 27, 2007
What IS Creativity?
What IS creativity? Is it something that you're born with and if you weren't, too bad? I don't think so; with an open mind you can find it within. It may take some time and a bit of 'play' but it's well worth the effort.
At least on a basic level, creativity can be just a *different* way of seeing or doing something. What about these ruts, doing the same thing day after day, same schedule, same route to and from work, same stuff for dinner, same this, same that...? Routines can serve a purpose-in getting things done, usually without even thinking about it. But these routines CAN become boring; and who wants the safe ol' boring stuff all of the time? I know this sounds like a cliche but it's time to think outside the box and shake things up.
Take a walk on the wild side every now and then. Wear a different color of socks to work. No one else may notice but YOU will and it may even make you smile inside. Who knows, you may start wearing brighter colored shirts and actually be noticed [oh my; imagine that].
On your way home from work or errands, stop at the park. Even if you don't get out for a walk or a swing on the swing set, at least open the windows, let in the fresh air and breathe it in. Sit and watch for a bit and see how many different critters you can sight. And then stop by and get an ice cream cone on the way home to your humble abode. Even if it's snowing or raining out there, it's still ok to have ice cream. If you think it's too cold in the winter, then add a bit of hot fudge; that'll make it all better.
Another day, find a different way home and become familiar with your surroundings. If you haven't taken any time to read recently, magazines, books of various types, whatever, take some time to expand your mind. On a day off, stop by your local library and explore the kiddy section. Yep, the children's area. These selections range from the simple to the complex; they're often funny and can make you laugh out loud. Check a few out [tell the librarian that your bringing the books home to your grandkids if you need to]. Go home and read away the afternoon.
Finding ways to be creative can be a challenge, a bit of an effort to open your mind to something new. If you try something and it ends up not all that appealing to you, that's ok; you don't have to do it again. Try something else! Ask your kids for ideas, they're a great source of creativity. Open your eyses and see something familiar in a new way.
More on this topic soon...
At least on a basic level, creativity can be just a *different* way of seeing or doing something. What about these ruts, doing the same thing day after day, same schedule, same route to and from work, same stuff for dinner, same this, same that...? Routines can serve a purpose-in getting things done, usually without even thinking about it. But these routines CAN become boring; and who wants the safe ol' boring stuff all of the time? I know this sounds like a cliche but it's time to think outside the box and shake things up.
Take a walk on the wild side every now and then. Wear a different color of socks to work. No one else may notice but YOU will and it may even make you smile inside. Who knows, you may start wearing brighter colored shirts and actually be noticed [oh my; imagine that].
On your way home from work or errands, stop at the park. Even if you don't get out for a walk or a swing on the swing set, at least open the windows, let in the fresh air and breathe it in. Sit and watch for a bit and see how many different critters you can sight. And then stop by and get an ice cream cone on the way home to your humble abode. Even if it's snowing or raining out there, it's still ok to have ice cream. If you think it's too cold in the winter, then add a bit of hot fudge; that'll make it all better.
Another day, find a different way home and become familiar with your surroundings. If you haven't taken any time to read recently, magazines, books of various types, whatever, take some time to expand your mind. On a day off, stop by your local library and explore the kiddy section. Yep, the children's area. These selections range from the simple to the complex; they're often funny and can make you laugh out loud. Check a few out [tell the librarian that your bringing the books home to your grandkids if you need to]. Go home and read away the afternoon.
Finding ways to be creative can be a challenge, a bit of an effort to open your mind to something new. If you try something and it ends up not all that appealing to you, that's ok; you don't have to do it again. Try something else! Ask your kids for ideas, they're a great source of creativity. Open your eyses and see something familiar in a new way.
More on this topic soon...
Thursday, October 25, 2007
The creativity found in nature
There have been numerous times when I get so awestruck with the beauty and creativity [if that makes sense] found in nature. Last evening I was wishing that I had my camera with me. While out doing errands before a meeting, the western sky was awesome. The clouds were dark gray with scarlet interwoven within the stormy-looking sky. Not orange, purple, or pink that is more commonly seen but a deep red/scarlet. Beautiful. Then, heading east was the rising full moon with light gray whispy clouds gliding past. What a contrast!
I do need to start carrying around my camera with me again.
I do need to start carrying around my camera with me again.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Learning to be Creative
For most of my life, I've been searching for ways to creatively express myself. For the most part, I haven't felt all that successful in the various art classes required in school [though I had a later start than many of my classmates in that I don't recall doing any kind of art classes or projects in the school I attended for the first 4 grades]. And I wasn't really encouraged in artisitic endeavors in my youth.
When I was 10, I did start playing around a little bit with a point-and-shoot camera and, over time, I really came to enjoy it. Not necessarily as a way to create art [that thought didn't cross my mind] but it was a means to hold on to the memories-in-the-making. As the collection of photos grew, I started making my own scrapbooks--sometimes cutting the pictures into various shapes, adding titles, making comments, etc.
Over time, I did start receiving positive comments which encouraged me to continue down the photographic path. Since I'm the kind of person that learns by [seeing and] doing, I loved to experiment. At various times, though still getting some positive feedback, there were comments like 'you take too many pictures', 'that idea won't work', 'what do you want to do THAT for?', etc. In some ways discouraging but these comments pushed me to do that much more; after all, how are we to learn if we don't try?
Reading is another thing that's always been a part of my life. Maybe not a lot of really deep stuff but I loved reading about other places, lifestyles, how to do expand the horizons... In high school and college, writing was fun, too. Though I enjoyed doing it MY way which often wasn't the technically 'right' way but that's ok with me.
Jumping forward in time: About 10 years ago, I started getting back into my scrapbooking again with doing more with journalling the stories, often adding the behind the scenes stuff to the stories that the photos told. And more recently, maybe the last 5 years or so, I expanded into other areas in the paper arts realm including rubber stamping, greeting cards, and making & trading artist trading cards [these cards are so cool!!].
But still, I'm not at the point where I feel I'm expressing myself all that creatively. I guess it's a life long process. To help develop it, though, I'm participating in an on-line group and going through the book called 'The Artist Way' [I'll have to look up the author's name; I *think* it's Julia Cameron or something close]. This book is set up as a 12-week course and it serves as a means to explore, unblock, and expand our creativity. It can help with all areas and forms of art, be in music, writing, photography, painting, whatever. So this group has started this week and it should be interesting.
When I was 10, I did start playing around a little bit with a point-and-shoot camera and, over time, I really came to enjoy it. Not necessarily as a way to create art [that thought didn't cross my mind] but it was a means to hold on to the memories-in-the-making. As the collection of photos grew, I started making my own scrapbooks--sometimes cutting the pictures into various shapes, adding titles, making comments, etc.
Over time, I did start receiving positive comments which encouraged me to continue down the photographic path. Since I'm the kind of person that learns by [seeing and] doing, I loved to experiment. At various times, though still getting some positive feedback, there were comments like 'you take too many pictures', 'that idea won't work', 'what do you want to do THAT for?', etc. In some ways discouraging but these comments pushed me to do that much more; after all, how are we to learn if we don't try?
Reading is another thing that's always been a part of my life. Maybe not a lot of really deep stuff but I loved reading about other places, lifestyles, how to do expand the horizons... In high school and college, writing was fun, too. Though I enjoyed doing it MY way which often wasn't the technically 'right' way but that's ok with me.
Jumping forward in time: About 10 years ago, I started getting back into my scrapbooking again with doing more with journalling the stories, often adding the behind the scenes stuff to the stories that the photos told. And more recently, maybe the last 5 years or so, I expanded into other areas in the paper arts realm including rubber stamping, greeting cards, and making & trading artist trading cards [these cards are so cool!!].
But still, I'm not at the point where I feel I'm expressing myself all that creatively. I guess it's a life long process. To help develop it, though, I'm participating in an on-line group and going through the book called 'The Artist Way' [I'll have to look up the author's name; I *think* it's Julia Cameron or something close]. This book is set up as a 12-week course and it serves as a means to explore, unblock, and expand our creativity. It can help with all areas and forms of art, be in music, writing, photography, painting, whatever. So this group has started this week and it should be interesting.
Up and Running
Wow, my first post! I've been thinking about starting up a blog for a long time now but I didn't really know what I'd focus on. So many of the blogs I've read have a particular theme and I do enjoy reading them. But hey, like a lot of us out here, my interests, train of thought, things to contemplate, etc are always changing. So why limit myself? I may or may not go into a lot of depth on any particular post but perhaps it'll be enough to get a conversation going or a stepping stone to something completely new and different. Or maybe a place to just ramble or vent. :-)
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